So its no surprise to many who are close to us, that Brett and I are reproductively incompatible. Somehow he and I, two infertile people found each other in the midst of millions & millions of people! Ha ha ha...
About a year ago we spent a pretty big chunk of 100% hard earned money for Brett to under go a surgery so we could have kids naturally. AND...whadda know in mid-2008 "things" closed back up and here he & I are again back at square one. (P.s. Brett has two kids, Kiera & Josh - he was 22 & 23 years old when they were born - he was still a boy himself!)
If you are infertile or ever have been you know the emotional roller coaster ride which is almost impossible to avoid. It can be especially difficult for us "infertiles" at my age (24 1/2) because its about that time in friends, family & strangers lives where they start getting pregnant as quickly as the rabbits are reproducing next door...literally!
REGARDLESS of this fact, I have FINALLY come to a point in our infertile lives where I can finally laugh and enjoy life again. I'm at a point, personally where not every thought of every day is consumed with how am I ever going to get pregnant?!?! I can start joking with friends & family with the new nickname I've given Brett & I which is "The Infertiles"...sort of like "The Incredibles" only our super hero power is NOT being able to create life! Not everyone can do that now can they!
All joking aside, I feel I've been VERY blessed and grateful for the times when someone who does become pregnant, I am able to sincerely be happy for their little bundle of joy! It doesn't sadden me & I realize that (even though this is small to some), it is a blessing to me to be happy for others for something that doesn't come easy and definitely not cheap for my husband & I.
Next year we have decided to do IVF (invitro fertilization) which is BIG BUCKS insurance not included!! Its also pretty intimidating to me since it requires the woman to be on SO many medications/hormones. IVF for woman is very intrusive. But whatever we need to do in order to have a child of our own works for me, because that is one part of our lives together that I don't want to go without experiencing!
About a year ago we spent a pretty big chunk of 100% hard earned money for Brett to under go a surgery so we could have kids naturally. AND...whadda know in mid-2008 "things" closed back up and here he & I are again back at square one. (P.s. Brett has two kids, Kiera & Josh - he was 22 & 23 years old when they were born - he was still a boy himself!)
If you are infertile or ever have been you know the emotional roller coaster ride which is almost impossible to avoid. It can be especially difficult for us "infertiles" at my age (24 1/2) because its about that time in friends, family & strangers lives where they start getting pregnant as quickly as the rabbits are reproducing next door...literally!
REGARDLESS of this fact, I have FINALLY come to a point in our infertile lives where I can finally laugh and enjoy life again. I'm at a point, personally where not every thought of every day is consumed with how am I ever going to get pregnant?!?! I can start joking with friends & family with the new nickname I've given Brett & I which is "The Infertiles"...sort of like "The Incredibles" only our super hero power is NOT being able to create life! Not everyone can do that now can they!
All joking aside, I feel I've been VERY blessed and grateful for the times when someone who does become pregnant, I am able to sincerely be happy for their little bundle of joy! It doesn't sadden me & I realize that (even though this is small to some), it is a blessing to me to be happy for others for something that doesn't come easy and definitely not cheap for my husband & I.
Next year we have decided to do IVF (invitro fertilization) which is BIG BUCKS insurance not included!! Its also pretty intimidating to me since it requires the woman to be on SO many medications/hormones. IVF for woman is very intrusive. But whatever we need to do in order to have a child of our own works for me, because that is one part of our lives together that I don't want to go without experiencing!
14 comments:
Wow, brit, i had no idea. I hope all goes well, and i will pray for you. Im glad that you can find joy in this, it would be SO hard for me, and think it is huge to be able to learn something from your trials, thanks for being so positive and a good example.:)
You amaze me Britt. Keep up the great attitude! You and Brett will be blessed with a little one eventually!
Thanks girlies! You guys are greatest:)
You are so amazing Britt. I admire you so much. You guys will be in our prayers! I'll hopefully see you at Danielle's reception!
b I think about you all the time and how hard it is for you. I'm glad you posted your thoughts. Let's cross our fingers for IVF!
Britt-
You are an inspiration to me. It takes a strong person to have such a good attitude during trials.
I'll see you tomorrow!
Danielle
Thanks everyone for your kind words. I wasn't expecting this kind of response to my post! It helps me to continue wanting to stay positive, since it can be so easy to let that fade. I just really appreciate everything you all said!
LOVE Britt-Britt :)
Hi Britt,
I found your blog through Lindsey's - I hope it's okay I peeked in on your life.
I had no idea you guys were trying for kids. I guess I don't really think of it because it's not where *I'm* at in life. I've never had a single baby urge...isn't that strange?
Anyway, I have lots of friends (being 37 yrs old, I've been around awhile) who have struggled with having kids, so I know of the roller coaster it can be. Your attitude definitely helps, so I'm glad to see you have such a good one!
Take care,
--Sherrie
Britt I love you!! You are such a good friend and you are such a strong person and I know that you are so amazing to do whatever it takes.. You are going to be such a amazing mom and you will appreciate that little babe more that anyone can even know. You are placed under so many trials and you still draw closer to god.. You are such a strong example to so many people and everyone loves a little bitt bitt!
Hey Sherrie!
I'm glad you found my blog
I'll add your blog onto my blog links!
You are so sweet - thanks for writing what you did here :)
You & Jeremy are so cute together! Keep in touch sista!
Hey Katrina!
You are SO sweet - you've been such a MAJOR person in my life esp while trying to get my own baby! As you know, better than most it hasn't always been positive and happy times. You KNOW what I'm talking about! I REALLY appreciate all of the times you've listened to me no matter what and always have given me such a great advice! I love you to death! You are one of my greatest friends!
I'm still so happy for you & Porter that you have your little Chloe. She cracks me up & I love how smiley she is! You guys deserve a little one so sweet.
I LOVE YOU
~Bitt Bitt ;)
You look like someone I went to school with. I saw you on Audree's blog I just wanted to say I have been where you are and know how hard it is and also how long it dose take to be truly happy for pregnant women around you but once you get to that point you are like you said happier! I hope that you guys get your bundle of joy soon.. It took us 4 and 1/2 years and lots of money before we got ours and in the end I wouldn't change how it happened... We adopted 3 boys then got pregnant : ) once again I hope you don't mind me jumping in on your blog..
Hi Cadance!
I remember you from school too. I've heard so many stories of people adopting and then once they do they get pregnant. Looks like its true :) Ha ha ha - you are welcome to check out my blog, I don't mind! I checked yours out too, & your little family is all so adorable! I know that one day my husband and I will have our own kids in some way or another. I appreciate what your encouragement! :D
It was me, Brittany who posted that last comment to Cadance. I cant figure out how to log out of my step-sons account on my husbands laptop. Just wanted you to know so it wasn't confusing! :)
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